Red Current posted about that subject recently.
That question is a problem for me now. As I was writing a quite long comment on her blog, I thought I may copy it here too...
As you may know if you are here sometimes, I have recently had my third child. He is now 4 month old, his brother is 2 year old and their sister is 5. I must return to work in less than two months (I have taken two not-paid months, after my 4-months birth vacation). I am devasted. When my first child is born, I was workless. I stayed with her two happy years. But I had few friends in the same situation, and was quite lonely. When my first son is born, I had a quite recent job. My co-worker was an amazing man, whom I really loved to work with, and still it was hard to go back to work after six months of interruption, leaving behind a tiny baby, every day of the week.
Now my beloved co-worker has been replaced, my job is getting boring... and I must let behind THREE children to go working. My heart bleeds when I think of it.
Still, we need the money (even if we have no car and a VERY small appartment). Besides, I am afraid of not finding another job as practical as this one later on if I leave this one. It's close of my house, I can work half-time, I am relatively well paid, and they have never complained about the fact that I have made two child in three years working there!
Do I feel guilty when I go to work? No. I have organized my children's live very happily when I am away. In fact, I would make them go to the kindergarden even if I was at home. (Not so early though. They are happy to meet other children. And I need some rest.) And as I said, we need the money.
I do not feel guilty. But I am not happy to go back to work soon.
Now the question could be: What would make me happier? I will try here to find some answer, and may developp each further in future posts.
1.- I would like to work in a field that is interesting to me.
2.- I would like to use my multiple talents.
3.- I would like to work mostly at home during the next two or three years.
What do I like to do? And can I?
I like to learn. I'm very good at it.
I like to teach. I'm very good at it too.
I like to read. aloud too!
to sing. to knit. to sew. to create. to draw and paint. to act.
I like to study the humanity and its art and arts.
I like english. I LOVE french.
Anyone needs a translator for art and/or craft books?
to be translated in french as soon as possible! (sic)
à traduire en français dès que possible.
Apparently I must think and work about that part of my life.